Your worst enemy / best friend is the voice in your head

Does this sound familiar to you? The conversations you have with yourself in a parallel universe called your head. I think most of the time I am not talking to others, I‘m talking to myself. During these self-talks I am neither nice, polite nor diplomatic and respectful. I am merciless, skeptical and overall, the worst critic of myself.

I studied Communication Science and it was actually during my first year in University that I became aware that it is not only the external communication you have to take care of but also the internal. Not so much because due to theoretical discussions but more because the stress and the pressure of studying let my inner monologue explode. 

Mind blowing in the worst way. I could not stop and tame the inner critic. I set totally different standards for me than for others...it just went out of perspective. It hurt my confidence, self-worth and self-respect. 

Perhaps you have similar experiences. Feel free to share, e.g. on our Insta.

You can really be your worst enemy if you let the negative voice become too loud. Make sure you reflect your behavior and take some precautions to flee the vicious cycle of negative self-talk. 

Meditation can be one solution - there are brilliant apps like Calm helping you to structure your progress and to reprogram your head.

Journaling is another one - while sorting yourself and checking your lists you create a documentation of all the positive achievements and your successes to calm your inner critic.

External feedback - make use of your best friends and partner to give you some positive thoughts to repeat whenever the negative monologue starts.

I believe that we can reprogram ourselves and think happier thoughts. Make your inner voice your best friend and become your biggest fan.

Read this wonderful article from The Guardian : https://www.theguardian.com/science/2021/jan/16/inner-voice-self-criticism-psychologist-ethan-kross-chatter-voice-head